Real Sexuality is Not About Sex

When we talk of sexuality we are not talking about explicit sex, either in word or deed. Rather we are referring to a gut feeling that bypasses the mind and body parts and stimulates all the senses.
Have you ever noticed the lack of self-consciousness and the confidence that someone really sexual exudes?
That's because real sexuality has nothing to do with thinking; it has to do with being-being alive, feeling connected to an inner core. When we are allied with our Inner Self we are turned on and when we are turned on, people are turned on to us.
In the classical literature of Kashmir Shaivism, kundalini is Divine energy, the snake that lies coiled at the base of the spine. Uncoiled, it moves up the spine, where it reunites at the top of the head with God, the Divine, and your own true Self.
As this energy is released it creates a vibration that is very powerful. This vibration is an emanation of the Inner Self and moves with strength and speed in the physical world. When we are in the presence of someone whose kundalini has been awakened, we pick up a different pulsation; there is something very attractive and engaging about this person.
Most of the time we have no idea intellectually what is going on-we just feel attracted. Initially, we may think the attraction is sexual, but that is just how we have previously interpreted wanting to be near someone. Now, all of our senses are stimulated, and we are awake, aware of a different energy that is both intoxicating and alluring.
This force captures us, and we are inexplicably drawn to the juicy feeling. We feel the need to move closer and closer because the energy is familiar; it may be the other person's but it is our energy too, Divine energy, the same in us all-and when we feel it, we know it. We cannot help but respond. With the other as a mirror, we are drawn in, never realizing we are turned on to our own vibration.
Feeling whole, we glow from the inside. This is what real sexuality is all about.
Chapter 46 from Reality Works- Let It Happen Copyright © 2002 Chandra Alexander
Chandra Alexander, MSW, has been living and teaching authenticity for the last thirty years. Selected by The Oprah Magazine as the Life Coach to deliver twelve coaching sessions to the grand prize winner of their Toyota Moving Forward contest, she also spent five years on NBC/TV/Daytime giving a weekly "Reality Check." Her blog, ChandraUnplugged.com is a real find for any true seeker on the path to authenticity. Along with a private practice in Tampa, FL, she coaches clients all over the world in the areas of relationships, work and consciousness. To learn more about her books and CDs, visit her website at Coachgirl.com

Love Life-Learn How To Make Your Relationship Better

Making your love life better is a definite way to make you and your partner live a better life. Love making may appear like a distant memory that occurred for some when they were young teenagers full of unconvinced sexual liveliness. Now that you have finally grown up, have a successful career, and barely enough time for yourself people completely forget the importance of their love life. Most couples start to feel too old and think they can’t make passionate love anymore and just tend to live their life in misery instead of trying different ways to make their love life better.
Tip #1: Shock Your Partner. If your significant other is washing the dishes or just watching tv, slowly go behind him/her and message their shoulders. They will quickly forget about anything they are doing and focus all their attention completely on you. No matter what is going on, this stimulation will shift their focus no matter what.
Tip #2: Set the Scene. Make a music CD with you and your partner’s absolute favorite love making songs on it. Buy lots of fruit and light many candles. Set the scene and set the night. Your love relationship will definitely grow.
Tip #3: Respect Each Other. It is hard to make passionate love to someone that you don’t find attractive or always put down. You need to give your partner comments on a daily basis such as you look good or you are losing weight. Giving positive reinforcement will better your sex life and help your relationship tremendously. If you’re a guy and your wife worked hours fixing her hair, please NOTICE IT. Please let her know her hair looks amazing. After all she fixed it for YOU!
Tip #4: Have Sex at the Appropriate Times. You can tell right away if your partner is in the mood or not by their actions. The worst thing you can do is try to force your partner or egg them on to have sex. If they don’t want to there is no point in pushing and pushing for it. If you do have sex after the other doesn’t want it, please expect to have terrible sex.
Using these 4 tips will definitely better your sex life and love life. You will be in love more than you could ever possibly be in love. It will feel like you just met your partner and are on your first date. Using the right tips will give you a giddy feeling all over again and you will experience feelings and different sides that you have never ever felt before in your relationship. Finding new ways to please each other will grow your relationship to new heights and new levels. A love game seems to work well to increase your love life also. Using sex toys and love games will take your relationship to new heights and the 4 tips listed in the above article. I wish you the best of luck and I hope this article will help you with your love life!
About the Author
S. Millson is an expert in the area of sexual psychology, techniques, and methods. Millson is well respected for bringing back better sexual enjoyment for both men and women. S. Millson's website, iknowsex.com has a plethora of information regarding how to spice up your sex life and relationship advice.